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1. Not posting a photo at all. Not posting a photo at
all is arguably the most serious mistake. You must have
something to hide if your photo is a blank space. Trust us,
everyone thinks so. And that jaundiced phrase "ask for my
picture" is sounding pretty lame these days. Describing
yourself in words is lame, too.
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2. Posting a photo that is more than 2 or 3 years old.
If you are too much older than your picture you've committed
the sin of "age shaving" online. This is guaranteed
to put your relationship on shaky ground from the start and is
usually an instant "deal breaker." Ever wonder why
that second date never happens? It's a sure bet they won't
tell you if you "age shaved".
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3. Is that little figure in the
background you? If your
image is so small you can't be seen clearly you must be
butt-ugly or have something to hide. Lame. Get a real photo of
yourself. We've already seen Yosemite - in person.
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4. Compromising by using a
photo with a strange or goofy expression.
If the only fairly close up, kinda' clear picture you have of
yourself looks like you just smelled something unmentionable,
it's time for a better photo. Even prose by Shakespeare in
your profile can't overcome the awful first impression created
by a drunken, or worse, that dreaded "deer in
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5. Is that you - or is the one
on the left you - or is the one in the background you?
Why are you kissing that strange-looking man on the cheek? Who
is that man with his arm around your shoulder? Are those your
parents? If we have to guess or if you have to explain it in
your profile text, it's too late. Try to avoid posting a photo
with more people than you in it, especially if the other
person(s) are of the opposite sex, even if you think the photo
of you is good. |
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6. Take off those sunglasses.
Going incognito are we? Playing Joe Hollywood? Wearing
sunglasses just suggests you have something to hide.
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7. You at the party,
head tossed back in laughter, beer in hand, having so much fun
you make us puke. It's not that we believe that you get drunk
and party 5 nights a week, but why should we take the chance.
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8.
Trusting your mother or brother to tell you which photos
you should use online. Your mother thinks even your
goofiest picture looks absolutely charming. Your view is
biased, too. That favorite photo that you think looks really,
really good might not. Instead, ask someone of the opposite
sex who you find attractive which photos you should use
online. That's the single most accurate measure of your
photo's effectiveness. Why? Because when you post your photo
online, you'll be impressing just such people - or not
impressing them - a thousand times a day. |
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9. Showing too much skin.
This will get you just the wrong responses if you're a woman,
and usually no responses at all if you're a man. There are
exceptions, but not many.
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10. Using your crappy snapshots
because you think using professional photos is
"cheating". Using professional quality photos is the
first thing online dating experts suggest you do if you take
your online dating seriously. You certainly don't trust your
health, your vision or even your haircut to an amateur. So why
trust your online image to one? Making a lasting first
impression with professional photos is a sensible way to put
your best face forward. |