• How to Write a Personal Ad - For Men
Obviously catching someone’s attention
is an ‘art’ in itself and requires good communication
skills and understanding of human tendencies. SO it doesn’t
come as a surprise to me when the most frequent complaints men
have about internet dating are that women don't respond to their
ads or their e.mail. Of course there cannot be sure shot way to
avoid these, as we are dealing with humans, but following few
simple guidelines while writing both your free ad and your responses
to women’s ads can definitely generate interest among fairer
sex.
Basic Guidelines - to writing Effective Personal Ads
l) BE HONEST. Never hide the facts
of your life. Honesty need not be over-stated, especially when
it comes to Internet dating. It may be possible that you may be
having a personal turmoil in your life and needing a partner who
will be matured and understanding to you. Allow the other person
to make informed decisions about you and their likes and dislikes.
And can only be possible if you make a true representation about
yourself.
Dishonesty is the fastest way to ruin your life and being honest
is the best prevention from being terribly embarrassed sooner
or later. And if you are a very emotional person, it may even
lead to some terrible emotional breakdowns.
Simple catch is: allow others to love you as you are and who you
are.
2) MAKE A ‘PUNCH'. You need
real attention to compete amongst thousands of soulmate seekers.
You need to understand as to what it takes to attract opposite
sex and what could be the best representation of you in a single
sentence.
‘Punch’ are small attention-grabbing USP’s of
yourself which needs to be your description headline. You need
to be original and different which demands reading atleast once.
This may require you to check-out the competitions and various
successful ads.
‘Punch’ can be best used as a great representation
of what you are. Like if you have a fabulous sense of humour or
a very intellectual personality, use this space to convey appropriately.
3) BE SPECIFIC. You know who you
are and what you want.. tell them about it! It is a logical conclusion
that to get quality responses from fairer sex, seeking their Mr.
Right, knowing and understanding every aspect of you and appreciating
the same would be the ones you will be interested in. Tell them
every aspect of your likes and dislikes and not without reasons.
Every individual will have their likes and dislikes but letting
know your reasons would facilitate the other person in understanding
you as a person and making an informed and thoughtful decision.
4) BE POSITIVE. Providing all aspects
of your, including your likes and dislikes, is important but at
the same time presenting it in your natural exuberance with positive
outlook to life will work strongly for you. Negativity repels.
How about an offer from a counseling service? Yes, that’s
what you may end up into because you probably won't attract your
soulmate.
5) PERFECTION. As the saying goes
- First impression is the best impression. And if you don’t
believe in this, don’t read any further. Try to present
your ad with as much perfection as possible. For example avoid
spelling and grammatical mistakes. Even seek for a professional’s
guidance if required. I wont recommend you to take any chances
and advise you to put your best foot forward.
One
aspect which cannot be over-stated!! BE HONEST, BE HONEST, BE
HONEST.
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